Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Life aint easy.... it aint ever easy

Things have worked out for me.  I cant lie.  I am pretty happy.  
There are people who have said that I "cant understand" various aspects of their life because mine has been so easy.  In the past I haven't known what to say to that.  Has my life been easy?  Am I a lazy slacker who things always just worked out for?  Seriously?  People think that?  A friend of mine recently helped me put into words how I feel about this, and I'd like to share it in case anyone is interested.

Maybe I was blessed with a sense of direction some people lack, but I knew the life I wanted and put myself on a path to obtain that life and worked hard for it. But to say that I have had it easy demeans me.  It demeans the small and sometimes difficult choices I have made along the way in my life that have bought the happiness I have now.  

This is to say nothing of the pain and heartache I have been through in my life that is private.  So has my life been easy?  No, life aint easy... not for me, or you, or joe shmo next door.  But we choose the life we want.   Every day we choose it.  Some days I choose a better life than others, but I hope that in ten years I can look back and realize as I do today that I have picked a good one.   

I loved Elder Uchtdorfs talk on Sunday.  It touched me and made me want to be better.  He said "I imagine that every person on earth has been affected in some way by the destructive spirit of contention, resentment and revenge. Perhaps there are even times when we recognize this spirit in ourselves. When we feel hurt, angry or envious it is quite easy to judge other people, often assigning dark motives to their actions in order to justify our own feelings of resentment. Of course, we know this is wrong." 

 I have love and empathy for those who have difficulty and pain in their lives.  I don't mean to demean or trivialize their life, and pray that they can do the same for me.  If you want an "easy" life, go and get it.  You might find its not so easy, but its sooooo worth it! 
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